Successfully Negotiating a Raise Pt. 2

Successfully Negotiating a Raise Pt. 2

You were able to use Clarity and Sakichi Toyada’s “5 Whys” to get down to the core reason of why you want a raise. That’s a huge step and one that is completely necessary to being an Authentic Negotiator who can expect success at the negotiation table. Unfortunately,...
Authentic Conversations about Race

Authentic Conversations about Race

While race is a social construct, the impact of that construct is real. We hear people (mainly people who identify as white) say things like “I don’t see race,” “I’m not prejudiced,” or “we live or should live in a post-racial society.” Aside from being surface-level...
Negotiating Our Differences

Negotiating Our Differences

Why do we tend to keep most people at arm’s length? Why are we so hesitant to find common ground? It’s because of our differences. It’s a shame, but it’s the unfortunate truth. The idealist in us wants to say that none of us are different, that we’re all human after...
Authentic Negotiating Success: Equilibrium

Authentic Negotiating Success: Equilibrium

You’ve achieved Clarity and successfully Detached yourself from the outcome of your deal. How do you sustain and leverage the advantage that Clarity and Detachment give you? Maintain your Equilibrium. In a previous article I shared on Detachment, I discussed an old...
Successfully Negotiating a Raise Pt. 1

Successfully Negotiating a Raise Pt. 1

There’s a crucial difference between winning a negotiation and getting what you want from a deal. It’s possible to win a negotiation and still suffer significant losses relative to what you set out to accomplish. My goal is never to win a negotiation. My goal is...
CPR—Context, Purpose, and Results Pt. 3

CPR—Context, Purpose, and Results Pt. 3

What started Lenny, Gina, and I on our CPR quest was that Lenny’s present Context was going to be a huge impediment to a successful negotiation. And to this point, we still hadn’t redefined their Context, but we were able to establish for them a concrete Purpose that...